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The beginning of the journey

So I remember just before I had turned 30 I had posted a note on facebook about my disappointments and regrets as I approached this 'magical number' of 30. Unbeknownst to me that the best friends a girl could ever have were reading it and were planning a surprise party for me to celebrate my 'old age' :) At the party they encouraged me and told me to to write a new 'reflection' and so I have decided to chronicle my journey through my 30's and the lessons learnt and experiences gained. 

LESSON #1
[Turning 30 will not magically solve your problems]

When were younger we would dream of the day when we would turn 16 ... 18 then 21 ...  The glamour of reaching adulthood when we would be able to make our own decisions, drive, have our own house, get married, make lots of money, take vacations and travel the world seemed so faaaarrrr away. Little did we know that it was closer than we thought. The old adage that says that time waits on no man really is true. It seems that time goes by so quickly as you approach 18, like a speeding train going downhill, there really is not stoping or slowing down of time as you enter adult years.

And then it hits you ... I am 30!!!!!!


And without warning all of a sudden the glamour of adulthood begins to vanish as you begin to realise how much you still have left to accomplish and how your decisions in your earlier life have impacted on where you are now. You felt that you had more time to prepare but if you had just planned for it and stuck to your goals you would have been in a much better place. You enter this new dispensation with a lot of baggage and you think that turning 30 means all your struggles are over with the switch of number, but alas not so. 

You realise that just changing a number will not change your status from single to married; give you a higher paying job; give you car, house and land; or make your adult years any easier or successful. You still have to fight, still have to press, still have to believe, still have to hold on to Jesus who controls all things.

The beauty though is that you are not alone on this journey. No matter how you feel that you are alone, someone else is going through the same struggles and if you open up to them you will realise the beauty of partnership and friendship along the way. Don't be afraid to share your weakness(es) and insecurities even if it is not returned, but just ensure it is someone you can trust and who will keep you in their prayers.

More than anything else turning 30 has made me more reflective and help to realise really just how short life is. No matter what age you are there will be issues but with God, great family support and great friends you can make it through 

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  1. Unknown12 March 2014 at 12:38

    Great post! Keep sharing it is so therapeutic!

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  2. Reflections of a Therapist14 March 2014 at 11:37

    Great post, i can definitely relate, i had some of the same feelings turning 30, i too have been reflective and have been thinking a lot how i would want to spend my 30s. Thanks for sharing!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. Dahlia_Writes26 March 2014 at 07:23

      no problem dearie ... glad the post resonated with you :) Happy to know is not me alone in the boat #dwl

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