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Feeling Stuck?

Why am I stuck? I am doing everything I need to do to access better and yet it seems that I am not unlocking the future I desire. What am I doing wrong? I always seem to have the door slightly ajar but never open wide enough to walk right through it. It's always just a glimpse, a shadow, a glimmer of the future. I have always been a proponent of preparing for the life that you desire and I have been doing just that. Preparing educationally, spiritually, emotionally, and socially but yet never able to 'close the deal'. So many hopes and dreams for life backed by the requisite action but nothing. Can you relate? Well, let's talk about it.

What is this concept of being stuck? What does that mean? For me it's that feeling of not moving forward, not making progress in the direction of my dreams.  I think of a scenario of walking, moving my feet but doing all of that on spot. Therefore there is neither forward nor backward movement so I am not changing my position or location. That's how many of us feel, that all of this is nothing more than a futile exercise. Isn't the whole point of walking that we are advancing to where we desire to be. After all, life is not static so why should we be?

However, I've been thinking what if?
What if this idea of being stuck is nothing more than a blessing in disguise. We are always so focused on moving up the ladder of success in our careers, making more money, and attaining all the things the world says are markers of upward mobility that we often forget what's important. 
What if this idea of being stuck is just a period to allow us to see ourselves, the people around us, and the world. We often miss out on the beauty of life and the season when we are in because we are constantly on the move. Missing the voice of God because we are never still enough to hear it and always missing the lessons because we are never focused in the master class called life. 
What if this idea of being stuck is a divinely orchestrated moment granted for redirection? Have we ever thought that just maybe the path we are on is the wrong one or that who we trying to be is not our authentic selves? What is life if not living it on and in purpose?

The bible in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 states that there is a season for everything under the sun. So my takeaway is that this state of being stuck cannot last forever. Even if movement out of that place is slower than desired, eventually your state will change. We were built to have forward and backward movement. Our creator in His wisdom did not create us to be stationary because life requires us to be mobile. That is how we are able to be a blessing by being at the place where the help is needed which means we can never be in just one spot. 

Being stuck is not a part of God's plan or vocabulary. I believe it's man's way of trying to rationalise a seasonal experience they cannot comprehend. However, when we feel that way remember there is still purpose in that season. What is God trying to say to you, teach you, or do in you in that season? If we look beyond the seasonal immobility we will discover a wealth of opportunities for growth and development in all aspects of our lives. It may not feel good in the moment but remember you are not stuck it's just a part of the journey. Once we accept the sovereignty of God in our lives we recognise it's not working against us but for us.

Degree granted but no job? - NOT STUCK
In a job position longer than expected? - NOT STUCK
Always shortlisted but never chosen - NOT STUCK
Tired of being single - NOT STUCK
Feel like life is working against you - NOT STUCK
*** Call out your situation *** - NOT STUCK


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  1. Yaaaaassssssssssss, one word to describe awesome.... Thanks for this inspirational message sis. 😊🤗😍 #LifeBringsHope

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    1. Awww thanks for your continued support. Indeed #LifeBringsHope

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  2. This was so relatable and we’ll needed.

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    1. I am so happy to hear this! If should all really share our experiences we would realise that our situations are really not unique. We all go through and we all can overcome

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