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It was just over 21/2 years ago that I decided with fear and trepidation to go back to my natural roots. It was something that I was contemplating for a while and just never had the courage to do because I felt that the raw natural look would not suit me.  Worse I am a low maintenance kinda girl and having to actually take care of and find styles for my hair would have been a task (still is). I just prefer braids and when my hair was relaxed (even though it was not in the most healthy state) because I could just put my hair in a bun or let it out and be on my way. 

However, I saw more persons embracing their natural hair during that season, and the more I entertained the idea is the more I felt comfortable doing it. I also suffered with eczema and it did not agree with the relaxer process. So going natural really was the better route for my hair health. I remember mentioning the desire to do the big chop to someone and they said short hair does not fit you and that caused me to pause for a moment. It caused me to think about it for a minute because I knew that once I cut it I would not be able to hide behind my hair anymore.  I would have to also take more deliberate care in how I dressed and wearing makeup more often. Or so I thought at the time anyway. 

I remember the day when I did, leaving the salon, walking by people and thinking that they were staring at me. With each step I took I wondered what they were thinking about the cut and if it actually suited my face. Yes that concerned me too. My fears however were alleviated in short order because as I stepped back into my office I began to receive compliments and shocked reactions. This continued throughout the coming weeks, but as the compliments began to pile on, I realized that there really was nothing to fear but fear itself. I mean even if I did not end up liking it, it is hair and it would grow back, even if only slowly so. The truth is, some months hence after some hair growth, I cut it even lower and I love it. Who knew that in the midst of the fear that I would end up finding my hair groove? Now I am on a journey to see if I can attain some hair growth so that I can do some protective styles. I know life is going to get busy again once we come out of this COVID-19 quarantine situation and I won't have the time to care my hair as I need to. 

So what was the lesson in all of this you may ask? How does reading this blog benefit me? In the words of the brand NIKE --- Just do it! Take plunge. Do that thing that you are nervous to do. So what if you fail? What if you realise that you do not like or want it as much as you thought? On the other side of fear you will discover a strength you didn't know you had. You may even learn lessons that will help you improve on areas where you are weak. Silence the naysayers. The only voice that is important is the voice of God. People may underestimate you and feed into your insecurities but don't let them. If that is what you feel convicted to do, it won't hurt you or anyone else, and it can pass the biblical moral compass, then what is stopping you? No one but yourself.

Like me you may discover that there was nothing to fear in the first place

#Justdoit #Growth

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  1. Unknown17 April 2020 at 10:48

    The learnt/taught here is applicable not just to a hair journey but taking risks, coming out of your comfort zone to embrace new possibilities and the unknown. So what you fail is better than pondering what could have happened as a result of me trying. Thanks for sharing Daliah. Bwt I love it 💕

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    1. Dahlia_Writes17 April 2020 at 20:46

      That is exactly it! Thank you for the feedback. Continue to also embrace your journey and Just do it!

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