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Age is just a number

Who came up with this saying? This person definitely was not experiencing the kind of pressure we face today. Society tells us that by the age of thirty (30) we should be married, own a car and a house, already have one child, and be settled in our careers making lots of money. We should know what we are about, our passions, our calling, and have a plan for our lives as we walk out our productive years. 

If we are all honest with ourselves, many of us have been to that place mentally and back. After we have passed a certain age we feel that since we have not achieved a certain milestone that we need to 'help God out' by taking matters into our own hands otherwise it won't happen for us, or we just live without that level of expectation. We submit to the pressure and determine that since we have not achieved these things within 'the timeframe' that somehow we are doing something wrong or that something is wrong with us. 

I know I have been to this place and every now and then the pressure tries to raise its 'ugly head'. However, this couldn't be any further from the truth. This flawed mentality negates the fact that we are all different. Our backgrounds, life experiences, and purposes are all unique. Essentially this means that on the spectrum of life we will attain certain milestones at varying points. God is sovereign and He knows the when, where, why, and how. We don't have to understand it we just need to trust and relax in His timing. 

I know you may not want to hear it right now but age is really just a number (you hear that Dahlia?). Whether we are 30, 40, or 50 it does not mean that we cannot find ourselves and walk out this life as the best versions of ourselves. We can still enjoy the promises of God in our older age. So we have not had a child yet and they tell us that having a 1st child over the age of 30 equates to a high-risk pregnancy. Well, we won't be the 1st and certainly will not be last to see the promise fulfilled in older age. The promise does not have an expiry date and God is with us every step of the way. In 2 Peter 3:8-9 it mentions that God is not slow concerning manifesting His promises in our lives as some understand slowness. Yes, He does not work according to our timing however we can be assured that the promise will be fulfilled. 

Whatever it is, let's not allow the fear of not fitting into a societal mold cause us to succumb to the pressures and do things out of character and the will of God. 

“By the time you're thirty, your worst enemy is yourself.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Choke


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  1. First Lady D4 November 2020 at 06:56

    Woooooooow, words of comfort and inspiration. Yaaaaassssssssssss Queen 👑 yaaasss

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