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So another birthday has come and gone. I am one year further into my 30's and another year closer to 40. As I reflect on this particular birthday I am not only grateful but I acknowledge the fact that all the fanfare is not necessary to have a great birthday or any day for that matter. I planned out everything to enjoy my own day and it was wonderful. Not only did the pandemic teach me this lesson through having to 'pivot' but just plain 'ole life. The life which teaches that hey other people have their own journeys too and it is not every time that our paths will cross. 

Too often we place our happiness in the hands of others and when they don't live up to our expectations we are devasted. I spent many birthdays feeling a bit down because I felt that there was not a lot of thought put into celebrating my day. I, especially in my later years either spent it alone or made plans myself, and those who could join in did. It seemed that I was the one who placed more effort into ensuring those important to me enjoyed their day. The reciprocation was lacking. 

However now at 3_ I am taking charge of how I enjoy my own day and days for that matter. I have learnt that we cannot put that responsibility in the hands of others. So yes I bought my own birthday cake, took myself shopping enjoyed my 'me time' and it was fabulous. We cannot wait for others to determine the outcome of our days. Get up and make plans for yourself. Do those things that make you happy. Whoever wants to come along for the ride then you can pick them up along the way. 

Life is too short to be waiting on people to celebrate you, recognize you, make plans with and for you. The saying is true that no man is an island and no man stands alone; we all need each other. However, your biggest supporter, cheerleader, and motivator should be yourself. Put a high priority on you and expect to be surprised at how good you feel. 

This is your Birthday girl Dahlia and I endorse this message


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